These 2 positive activities can end your depressing mid-life crisis now

James Julian
5 min readMay 24

There is a stereotypical view, propagated by media and pop culture, of the common mid-life crisis.

Usually, it’s a grey-haired dude behind the wheel of a red sportscar on his way to hit on girls half his age.

The guy is seen as joyously chasing ridiculous passions as a way to compensate for his advancing age and dead dreams.

In fact, I think most people suffering from a mid-life crisis aren’t skydiving or getting cosmetic surgery.

They’re just stuck and sad. Depressed. Catatonic.

Faced with the fact half of their life is now behind them and with everything society says they should chase (career, house, spouse, kids) now chased, they are left to ask…

“Is this all there is?”

Is this the rest of my life? Working this boring job to pay this stupid mortgage and going through the motions of a personal life and relationships that have lost all passion?

While these mid-life doldrums may feel inescapable, I think there is a simple, two-step process to shake yourself loose.

I stumbled upon it myself by accident, but I can tell you with the utmost confidence: it works.

A hamster running on a wheel.
Modern life can feel like running on a hamster wheel. (Photo by Matt Bero on Unsplash)

The solution

Earlier this week, I wrote about how some Boomers’ internet habits are making me sad. They spend all day responding to memes or corporate social media accounts. Or they’re getting mad at the news or the TV and sending email forwards about it.

But what I’ve learned from people doing retirement right is that they aren’t on computers or in front of the TV.

They’re out hiking or playing pickleball or hitting the gym in a way that’s appropriate for their age.

And they’re creating something.

Many choose writing and share their thoughts here. Others paint. Others do consulting work as a business.

Their happiness, and the happiness I’ve found at a time when I should be deep into my own mid-life crisis, comes down to two things.

In my experience, the two-part solution is:

  1. MOVE
James Julian

James is a former journalist and a current author, independent writer, entrepreneur, and investor. Top Writer in Health, Productivity and Parenting.